Posted by prissy on August 01, 2002 at 12:46:12:
In Reply to: Acne scarring,self esteem and Roaccutane!!....Does it make us unattractive to girls? posted by Darren on July 23, 2002 at 14:37:53:
: Hi all,
: This has took a lot of courage as far as I'm concerned to even write into this site, but Ive suffered long enough and I just cant get stupid little thoughts out of my head like the only way out being to committ suicide....Ive tried it once before and it nearly worked, but now I'm on roaccutane for a 4th time at the age of 23, and I feel that its not working as well as it should cos the doctor has put me on a lower dose i.e. 40mg per day instead of 60mg p/d, which cleared up my face no end, and I was the happiest fella alive then...I don't understand that...if doctors know you'll be happy, why not give you what worked before.?
: Anyway, now I am suffering a few acne scars, which the doctor said were "superficial", and until now I believed him...you see I recieved my graduation photos today, and I can't believe how bad I actually look in them...I'm at my lowest point of self esteem in months and now I feel the only solution is to take another overdose!!
: I feel soo unattractive to the women, as I seem to assume that most women are shallow and are only concerned with what my skin looks like...Can any girl out there assure me that this isnt true so I can feel a bit more confident!
: I know many people will put the depression down to Roaccutane, but I would disagree as I believe Rocaautane is a LIFE SAVER for many sufferers of acne.
: My depression is down to meer comments by children, the way people seem to stare at you for long periods of time as if something has caught their eye, and you just know they are lookin at your acne!
: I always when Im out, look for people who may have acne much worse than mine, and seem a bit happier when I do (I know its not right, sorry), but more often than not, everyone seems to have perfectly clear skin, and I feel like a leper among them, feeling the need to face downwards and not make any eye contact.
: This has affected my job opportunities, I have turned down the chance to meet girls the day after a night out at a club, cos I'm too afraid that they wont like me in the light of day!
: I'm soo afraid my life will continue this way, and I'll beome a recluse, a modern day agrohobic.
: Can anyone give me a bit of friendly advice on what I should do...Ive done the whole therapy thing, and anti depressants...please help before I lose all friends and family due to my attitude to life.
: I needed to get this off my chest...does anyone share similar fears...it would be nice to hear from someone who understands.
: Cheers
hey, i think everyone goes through those kind of feelings. but it all comes down to what you think about yourself. all girls arent that shallow. i personally would rather be with someone who has imperfection and is just nice that someone who has a pretty face and doesnt know how to treat people. have you ever heard of the saying nice guys finish last well that may be true but the ones that arent nice aren't even in the race they just think they are.